The Coppers Wife Series – Part 1

13 Sep

We may all fall into the category of being the ‘wife of a police officer’, but that doesn’t mean we are all the same. As with any group of people, we have a common denominator yet we all have different stories, experiences and feelings. We are all individuals.

My identity is not defined by the fact that I am a wife of a police officer, yet it is certainly a strong influencing factor. When we say ‘I do’ we know what we’re signing up for, and we do so with pride. However, sometimes we can’t be prepared for what life brings us.

I was always a very organised person, quite shy and probably didn’t speak up for myself often enough. When @RuralSgt and I married, I felt complete and over time I have become a little less shy and am learning to stand up for myself. I have unlocked a protective nature I didn’t know I had, when it comes to my husband and family.

Our lives have developed together and we have found our own way of dealing with shift work, my own work, our children’s routines and our general chaotic lifestyle. Sleep, or lack of, has become quite a defining factor too. Tiredness only magnifies the problems of dealing with traumatic or dangerous situations. By this, I am generally referring to the ones that Mr R deals with at work.

He has faced many dangerous and life threatening situations over the years. He is trained to deal with these and can only hope that he continues to do so correctly and be able to move on each time. As his wife, I have learned to take a certain amount of this in my stride. I never actually stop worrying, but there comes a point when you realise that you can’t live everyday in fear of his life. You have to learn to trust him to do the right things, to trust his colleagues to support him and to trust that he will, naturally, walk through the door at the end of his shift with a smile on his face.

It is still my biggest fear that something terrible could happen, but I don’t allow myself to dwell on it anymore. I remember getting myself in a terrible state about him working, especially at night time. I now realise that night time is just the absence of light and that, to him, it’s just another shift.

I battle these thoughts and worries on a daily basis, but I’m getting better at dealing with it. Many other wives, of police officers, will have their own views and ideas on this very subject. I have had discussions with two friends recently, who are also ‘Coppers Wives’ and have their own demons in day to day life. This blog is part 1 of a 3 part series. I now introduce two guest blogs by MrsB and PeelersWife. Please read the snapshots into their lives as a coppers wife.


One Response to “The Coppers Wife Series – Part 1”

  1. Richard (@Ritchhh) September 13, 2011 at 12:47 pm #

    Excellent first entry

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